Self-esteem is all about feeling good~!!

[written on 27th March 2008]

I was in my art class when I saw an article with the headline "Self-esteem is all about feeling good". It really catches my eyes with a very simply and nice illustration of two girls. The article was really good to me as the sentences were simple yet meaningful. Yes, I agree 100% that self-esteem is all about feeling good.

According to the author Xandria Ooi, she was un-fit before but she never felt attractive and insecure. She also mentioned that some people may born with high level of self-esteem but some need help to develop it. I also believe that other people have role in another’s self-esteem. It happened when we put other people down so that we can feel better about ourselves(extracted from the article). Anyway, it’s not a good thing if we are indirectly shredding other’s self-esteem. We definitely make them feel unpretty and unworthy. Plus, we are actually councealing our own low self-confidence and insecurities.

I was once experienced low confidence and low self-esteem in my high school days. I was always admiring my friend’s fair skin and some are so brainy. That was how i grown up wondering why I wasn’t as pretty, as clever as they are. It took years for me to realize that the most greatest thing is to be myself. Someone with a porcelin like skin, curvaceous body and having million dollars doesn’t mean they have great self-esteem, right? Someone with dark skin and no money may have better self-esteem. But I would never deny that physical appearance have great impact in one’s self-esteem. Some would do anything to make themselves beautiful. Yap, I’m talking about plastic surgery. We cannot blame them as it is an effort to built their confidence. (They got money anyway)

When I was chit-chating with my office mates, I can see the low-confidence syndrome happened to my mates. I have this friend who always worry about the dress she wear. She told me, that she always wonder what people will say if she dressed up too much for a date. She felt so shy to put on assesories as people might think she’s overdressed. So, she wore as simple as she can but still worry about it. She also kept worrying about her body shape which is so skinny that she couldn’t find any dress to make herself look attractive and not so childish. I do have skinny body and short height, but I never feel bad about it. Instead, I think it is an advantage maybe not for now, but for 10 years later? I’ll look younger than my age(am I?). So, I told her that everything have been set up and have it’s own pro and cons. It’s good to think positively most of the times. It’s okay if people thinks that you are overdressed. You are what you are and who you are. Do believe in yourself.

As a girl, putting on cosmetic stuffs may be a good effort for self-esteem development. I used to be a Product Advisor in The Body Shop for two months. TBS has five meaningful values; against animal testing, support community trade, defend human rights, protect our planet and activate self-esteem. You can see one of TBS’s value is Self-esteem itself. How? They never use any top model or top star to sell their products. The models are TBS staffs all over the world. Interesting huh? That makes me feel happy and energetic to go for work. It did help myself to built my own self-confidence. Since then, I never leave home without any makeup. I really feel more confident; plus, make-up is my interest as I think it’s an art. Some girls who came to the shop never had makeup but they wanted to; it is pretty interesting to me as I’ll brief them about cosmetic and how to put it in correct way. Some came telling that they are afraid to wear it. I’ll tell them, that’s not good at all. The most interesting and exciting being a girl is when you can put on make up and dress. So, girl.. never waste your girlish specialities. Self-esteem is the key.

I love to let my thought out of my brain(I’m a thinker). The point is, always feel good about yourself. Unless you are intent to do bad things, just proceed with great life ahead. There’s no such thing as BAD, because when BAD thing comes there’s alway GOOD things waiting in queue. Always be the first version of yourself instead of second version of someone else. Tell people around you that they are beautiful(do not erode another’s self-esteem). Believe that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. (^.^)